It is the season- Love

I was seating at my desk and was listening to a song from Rascal Flatts called "A winner at a losing game." Basically it is about two people one in love with the other and the other does not feel the same way. The song says so much to my heart because I am there in a way, but this is not what I am here about. At least not yet. I am here to talk about Love. In 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 it talks in the King James about charity which when translated in today's meaning read as love. I want to hone in on a couple one verse. It is verse 8 "Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. " Here we are told that the things that some churches put an importance on Prophecies, and speaking in tongues and knowledge, which is another study in itself, all will cease, but love will last for ever it never fails it will be there when all else does. I want to address an issue with a question.

So why is it that we have 50% divorce rates in the church like we do outside the church? Why is the church not setting an example? The church members lost that love? No, church members have forgotten what it means to be a follower of Christ. They go to church and play church for everyone to see them, but when it comes down to the rubber meeting the road. They fall short.

WOW that was harsh! Right? Well it is the truth. We are under a order from God himself to love one another, to forgive one another and to be like him. What would happen if God one day says, "hum I not "feeling it"?" Love is not a feeling that everyday stays the same. It alive and it ebbs in and out, it flows! Why do you think God used a river as an analogy? If your reading this and your married. If you look at your spouse and you feel hate and anger then I hsve to ask you a couple of questions.
1. Do you claim to be a christian?

2. IF so, then why are you not on your knees asking God to change your heart?



My heart? Yes, your heart! It is your hate that you feel! Hate is something that we do. It is not from God. It is something that can destroy us if we don't deal with it. Jesus told us in Matthew 18:22 "Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven." You don't know what I live with. Your right I don't. I do know he can take that hate and turn it back into love. A love that forgives no matter what happens. No matter how big a pain in the rear your spouse is.



"Well, Are you the one to talk? Mr. I have been divorced three times?" Yes, I do have the authority to talk and teach this. How? Because I would still be married had they not said the lost their love for me. You see if you know my past, I married one twice. I was the big pain in the butt. I had issues that I had not faced and was forced to last year. The thing is they forgot that they was not the greatest thing to live with. There were times I wanted to leave them, that i wished they would go fly a kite. Yet, I had learned to choice to love them and their flaws.



Let me explain. I have had to fight hatred in the last few months. You see one of them had said they would never leave me. That their love would not end. Well when things between us became hard, when we was at the end of our ropes. She left. I did file for divorce. Yet the day she signed the paper, I begged her not to. I asked her to come home. I told her that I filed the papers out of anger and I wanted it to work out. She signed them. She told me she would never come home. I found out that she lives with someone not far from here. It is another man and it has been a year. Other things happened and hate came in and I let it fester. I was totally wrong in having those thoughts. I knew this. So I began the hardest road of forgiveness that I have every taken. I cried not that I lost her, no I cried because in my heart I hated her and I wanted it gone. It is so easy to hate. So, so easy to let it go. Have I done it? Some what, yes. It is a struggle, when I hear a song that we listened to I feel the rage come in. I fight back. I think of the good times. I think about Jesus more than anything and I pray. I pray, God take this hurt and anger away, Replace it with the love I need to have to forgive." By the time the Song ends I have a happy thought of her and then I pray for her. There is not hurt. Each time the song plays or songs it becomes easier. On one song, out song the song I sung to her at the wedding. The most important song. I can now listen to and feel good. It is a good memory.



So what does that have to do with love? Easy, if you are a Christian then you have to learn to forgive your spouse. PERIOD. Divorce should never be an option. What does the song you first mention and this have to do with each other? I am still in love with both of my wives. Yes, and that will never ever change. Will it hurt my future? Nope, because God knows how I feel. He knows how it feels to love someone and they not love him back the same way. He knows how I feel. He will handle it where I don't have to. I'am lonely and wish that I had my life back, and there are times I cry. God is usually there comforting me and telling me that things will get better. I have my doubts at time and want to scream. Yet I know that sooner or later it will be okay. That it is just around that bend up there in the road.

Please listen to this video, it is from one of the best christian rock bands. Don't worry it is loud!